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Find out how writing in my journal daily helped me, learn the tips and prompts I use to get creative and express myself in my journal.


I was highly functioning, with a busy family. I was also running a successful business. To the outside world, I had it all together.

But something wasn't right; the drink had started to affect my mental health. On Saturday mornings I would wake up feeling depressed and anxious and full of regret, I nicknamed that the Heebie Geebies.


The kids would just be left to their own devices, they enjoyed that because they would be playing on their Xbox all day in their pyjamas, but I didn't want that life for them. I wanted us to be outdoors and enjoying time as a family.


I just always felt guilty. I always felt anxious. I would overthink and analyse things. I used to google in the middle of the night, Am I an alcoholic. I didn't want to drink as much as I was, but for some reason, I felt it was impossible to break that cycle. I used to worry about my health. I think it's no coincidence that I started to look at that when I was coming up to the age when I lost my father.

My Dad took ill when he was 44, and we lost him when he was 45. He smoked, and he drank too much. I think that was something that was always in the back of my head. I needed to be here for my children, they are just little, and they need me. I didn’t want them to be without a parent.

I informally spoke to the nurse at a routine appointment, she dismissed my worries, so I went home and passed my concerns off as unnecessary motherly guilt.

It was six more months before I tried to cut down again, I finally came to a crossroads and the alcohol industry under-estimated me, I discovered I had a choice.

I could have continued down that road for a few more years drinking more year on year to match my tolerance. Arriving at my G.P or an addiction support service having been referred by a disturbed neighbour or a kind police officer, instead, I decided to take my life in another direction.

Everything starts with an idea.

When we first think about 'quitting drinking' or 'losing weight' we automatically feel we will be going without; we are focusing on the negative. We are focusing on the pain and focusing on how hard it will be. This makes it easier to give up and is why many people fail.

How could you possibly get excited or motivated to do that? To shift your thinking, we need to put a focus on a goal.

Step 1. Set a GOAL

The goal is the specific outcome that you want in a particular amount of time. For example, when I started my goal was to quit drinking alcohol for 90 days. If you don’t know where you are going, you have no way of knowing if you got there. This is about celebrating when you succeed and figuring out ‘why’ if you fail.

Step 2.

Write your goal down. What is your specific goal right now, and in what time frame do you plan to achieve it? Write using strong positive statements.

I am going to...

Thinking this way sets your subconscious up for success! Read it out to yourself ten times and say it as you mean it.

OWN IT. BOSS IT. KNOW YOU WILL SMASH IT. To watch a short journal training session and to be added to a FREE sober pen pal 7-day trial with daily journal prompts click the link and sign up today.

I look forward to hearing from YOU.